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How We Met: He Said

 

Irene and I met for the first time on October 31, 2003.

While on our rounds that Halloween night, Greg Moore, dressed as a dread pirate and I, Maximus the gladiator, decided to stop in at one of our favorite local taverns – the R Bar, a San Francisco landmark for over three years.

There we ran into Michael, Greg’s brother, and his roommate, Irene. Michael was dressed as some sort of rhinestone space cowboy. It was as if Glenn Campbell and Liberace had morphed into one. Seriously!

Irene wore a sexy pink and black (I think) dress, a tiara, long gloves, boots and a sash emblazoned with the words, "Drama Queen." It was obvious that Irene was having a very good time in this costume.

I was having a very good time in my costume as well. How could you not when everyone chants, "Maximus! Maximus!" when you walk into a room? Sweet costumed affirmation. I had the guns and the Mo haircut going. Nobody wanted to face me in the Coliseum that night, at least not in my mind.

Now, I happen to think that your Halloween costume says something about you. You know, you dress as a firefighter because that's what you wanted to be as a kid. Same thing goes for a cowboy or a playboy bunny, but a "Drama Queen?!"

 

Now I'm not saying that I wanted to be a gladiator as a child, far from it. I wanted to be Evel Knievel, but a gladiator seemed like a reasonable substitute. Think about it, performing in a big stadium before thousands of people, all of whom showed up to see you meet your maker… but I digress, a Drama Queen?!

If you’re not familiar with it, Fernet-Branca is a liqueur, and an especially diabolical one at that. Greg and I had had plenty before Irene and Michael showed up. My inner voice said, "Careful, Tim. Caaaaaareful."

The first thing that struck me was Irene’s smile. It was sweet and mischievous all at once, and accompanied by a noticeable twinkle in her eye. Just seeing it warmed my heart and made me want to smile.

The second thing that struck me was… well, let’s just say that the entire Victoria’s Secret catalog came to mind. C’mon. I had to read the sash, didn’t I?

Little voice, "Careful, Tim. Caaaaaaareful!"

But aside from the smile, aside from the (ahem), what really struck me was her "what you see is what you get" attitude. As a confirmed bachelor, at times, you're confronted with this attitude and you immediately turn and run for the hills - I've got plenty of splinters to prove it - but this time something was different. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but this time I wasn’t running. I was hooked. As Kevin Costner said in the movie Tin Cup, "There’s something about that chick."

We celebrated Halloween together at the R Bar for a while longer, partying, people-watching and making general costumed fools of ourselves. We snapped a few photos, then Greg and I were on our way … I wouldn’t see Irene again for nearly four months.

 

The next time we met was at a Daytona 500 "Redneck Barbeque" at Greg's house in San Rafael. Irene was in full flirt mode. Noticing this, Greg asked me afterward, "So, what do you think about Irene?" I told him I didn't know why, but I was pretty sure I'd end up marrying her someday.

 

We wouldn't go on our first date until a year later. Three years later we're getting married.

 

I love being right.